There are many morals that people hold close to them. Respect. Loyalty. Trust. Honesty. Today, I am here to talk about the gray area of honesty. Is it really the best policy? Or are white lies worth it in the long run? Most people will tell you to be honest because every lie catches up with you eventually. It makes sense. Think about it.
For example, remember that time you told your mother that she looked nice in her new dress and then your father came home and told your mother she looked like a grandma?
All you had to do was tell your mother the dress was hideous and that she is so beautiful you wouldn’t want her to be caught wearing such an abomination.
However, you lied and now your mother is giving you the evil eye because you almost let her walk out of the house wearing a dress from 1953.
So, point of the story is not to lie, right? Well some people will argue that little lies are okay every once in a while. That those little lies are meant to avoid something bigger.
For example, you friend asks you to hang out but you want to hang out with your significant other so you tell your friend you can’t because you don’t feel good.
Then you and your partner go out to dinner and BAM there’s your friend with his/her mother. Now, not only do you look like a big fat liar to your friend but his/her mother as well.
This can be argued from another angle as well and that is that sometimes people just cannot handle the truth. I will give you an example that all girls are inevitable for.
Don’t you deny it either ladies because we all know you’ll be lying. For example, one of your girl friends is dating this guy that you absolutely can’t stand, for whatever reason.
Maybe he was a past cheater, maybe he hangs out with a bad crowd or maybe you had a secret crush on him in elementary school and never got over it. Regardless, you don’t like the kid.
You know the relationship is toxic because all they do is fight and all your friend does is cry. All you want to do is scream at the top of your lungs “PLEASE LEAVE THIS GUY ALREADY” but you know it’ll break her heart so you keep your mouth shut and you listen to her complain because you feel it’s the best you can do. Sometimes people really do feel that being honest can be more painful than lying.
Lying under any circumstance is completely wrong and if you even contemplate it you should be ashamed of yourself.
Your best friend that’s dating that loser boyfriend, tell her! Yes, she may be mad at you for a little while but eventually she will kick his butt to the curb and find a Ryan Gosling lookalike. And maybe she will set you up with his twin brother.
This is not just aimed at girls though; this is aimed at guys too. The example I used above, switch out your mother and put in your girlfriend.
If you tell your girlfriend she looks beautiful when she really looks frumpy and she finds out you lied, her claws will come out and no one will be able to help you.
Another piece of advice for the guys though, we find out everything. Do not ask me how because I don’t know but we just do. Look at your mother! She found out every time you snuck out of the house or lied when you said you didn’t drink at your friend’s house but you really did. Don’t ever lie, especially to a mother. They know all.
The conclusion? There is not a gray area when it comes to honesty. Honesty is completely black and white. Well I guess it’s more one color versus the two because you just shouldn’t do it.
Lying is never a good idea, especially when it comes to the people you love. Is it really worth a little white lie when it comes to hurting someone you hold close to you? I don’t think so.
The one and only time lying is acceptable is when surprises are involved. Then it’s acceptable to lie. But if that’s not the circumstance then just don’t do it. Trust me, honesty truly is the best policy.
