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‘It’s Over!’: Advice a Person Really Needs after a Breakup

Advice After Relationship BreakupAs the saying goes, breaking up is hard to do, but it doesn’t have to be. Contrary to what many people may believe, a breakup is not the end, it is only the beginning. That is one of the many key pieces of advice that a person really needs after a breakup.

In accordance with The Huffington Post list of the best breakup advice for those with a broken heart. You must learn to love yourself. Rather than dwelling on the love that was lost, go and give yourself some loving. Do things that make you happy and do what makes you feel good about yourself. It is also important to keep busy; focus on school, hit the gym, or pick up a new hobby.

A second thing to remember is to focus on the positive while being single and patiently waiting for a new love. Do not waste time thinking about what could have been, and do not give up on love either. Just live in the moment and enjoy life as much as possible. You do not need to be in a relationship in order to be happy. You hold the key to your own happiness.

Lastly, always keep it in your mind that you will become stronger after a breakup. Everyone suffers some type of loss in their life, whether it is a simple breakup, or something serious like death or divorce. Loss teaches us that life goes on. We become stronger in the process.

Gaby van der Westhuizen, a sophomore social work student offers her advice, “Things happen for a reason and that even though it’s going to be hard for a while, you have friends that are here for you. Do not let a boy dictate your worth; you are your own person and you will get through this.” After a breakup, Westhuizen reminded herself that there was a reason it did not work out and it is alright to cry, but you have to pick yourself back up and move on.

Junior psychology student, Taylor Klemm, said, “Remain secure in yourself and know that you deserve the best. Don’t let yourself get down about it, but instead pick yourself right back up. Know what you deserve and never settle for anything less. Whatever is meant to be will always find its way back in the end.”

In life, everything happens for a reason. There is a reason that individual came into your life and there is a reason why they cannot remain in your life. Each individual brings something different to one’s life. Although your journey as a couple has come to an end. The growth and experiences that relationship gave you are yours to keep forever.

Stuart Faunce, a junior health and physical education student, said,“After a breakup, many people struggle with getting over their ex. The best way to end this struggle is to take the risk and meet someone new. There are millions of people on Earth, so why not give someone else the chance. I am sure that right now, there is an awesome person looking for someone just like you. Remember your happiness is key. Be the best you while remembering to love yourself and keep on investing in yourself every day.”

Professor of Psychology, Dr. Gary Lewandowski, explains in his TED Talk that breakups do not have to leave you broken. “Relationships build us, define us, sustain us, and they break us.”

We can learn from the relationships that break us and we can use those experiences and heartbreaks to improve any future relationships. He confirmed that one in three people see their breakup as negative, so breakups are not as bad as they are thought to be.

Time heals all wounds, but this advice will certainly heal a lot after a breakup. It is necessary to remember that everything happens for a reason and no matter the situation, it is important to love yourself.


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