Last updateFri, 17 Nov 2017 9pm


Are Best Friends Our True Soul Mates?

Friends SoulmatesYou’re walking up the endless flights of stairs of Wilson Hall to get to your first class of your freshman year at Monmouth University and you finally get to room 312. You bond with the student sitting next to you (“Oh my God, I am so out of breath from those stairs”) and you two keep talking. Soon enough, the next thing you know, the two of you are inseparable. When you are not together, people wonder where the other is. The second you’re not together, you’re snapchatting and texting each other that you miss each other—it can be seen as pathetic, but you know it’s true!

Many people don’t believe in the concept of soul mates because they limit themselves to thinking purely of romantic relationships, but I am here to convince you that you’re thinking too narrowly. Open up your mind to the idea that a soul mate can be a non-romantic relationship. I truly believe that your soul mate can be your best friend. As a generation that has placed more and more emphasis on hooking up, getting into relationships seems to be more difficult. And, as we get older, we start to focus on finding “the one” and settling down.

We start to pressure ourselves into thinking that the perfect one doesn’t exist. What we fail to see is the one person that truly has been your soul mate throughout your search for “the one” –your best friend.

Things that you would imagine your significant other “soul mate” doing are things that your best friend already does for you! Your best friend is always there for you when your search for “the one” ends up dry. S/he is there when you’re crying your eyes out and cursing the boy or girl who broke your heart. Your bestie is the one who is there for you with unconditional love.

If you’re having a bad day and everything seems to be going wrong, who is the first person you text to vent to? Your best friend, of course! They understand you. They know exactly how to cheer you up. Whether it’s eating cookie dough and dancing around in your sweats to rap or getting out of the house together, s/he will know just the right thing to cheer you up.

I think we become so self-involved that we fret over our futures and who we are going to spend that future with. But, when we think about our futures I am sure that none of us could actually picture of a future without our best friends! We take them for granted, and forget that they have been on our side for just about everything. We should really be more appreciative of all that they do and recognize how great they are.

Hilary Duff once said, “‘Soul Mate’ is an overused term, but a true soul connection is very rare, and very real.” So, when you find your best friend for life, whether you’ve been besties from birth or if you just met them at Monmouth University after running up the steps of Wilson, never let them go and let them know just how much you appreciate them in your life.

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