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default article imageHow do I deal with my boyfriend thinking he is more important than school work?




Dear Anonymous,

I would first look at the bright side of this situation; your boyfriend loves spending time with you and that is something to have gratitude for. Try suggesting your boyfriend study and do homework with you. Studying with your partner can both give you time to focus on what you need to get done but will also show him spending time with him is important . I know it is easy to get sidetracked so try studying somewhere quiet, like the library, where you both must focus. If they decline the offer, sit them down and let them know that his mindset is bothering you. Communications professor Shannon Hokanson says, “There’s a communication theory about this—it’s called relational dialectics, and it reminds us that tensions between conflicting needs are a normal part of all interpersonal relationships.” After talking it over, schedule days and times dedicated to homework and then days and times to hang out with your partner. My biggest piece of advice to you is to never lose sight of what is important in your current life. At this moment you are a college student, which means your work is put on a pedestal. If you guys can succeed in getting work done together you ultimately will grow a healthy balance of work and play which you can take with you in the future of your relationship.

Good Luck,


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