“It’s Not You, It’s Me”

Its Not YouRelationships are probably one of the trickiest things to try to prioritize when entering the college realm, especially if you can’t help but be on cloud nine with your significant other. Some people want their relationships from high school and/or summer romance to last through college, but unfortunately, that usually doesn’t work out.

For some it does, but come on ladies- along with the guys who are pretending to not be reading this section right now- relationships require much upkeep. College is a place for new changes for everybody. You meet new people, and you want to try new things. Yet, are you willing to do everything it takes to maintain that long term relationship with the one you fell so in love with?

I thought I could, until the dreaded eight-word phrase made my whole world spiral down. I’m sure that some ladies out there know exactly what I’m talking about.

“Babe, I don’t think this is working out.”

This phrase is the tell-all-end-all of phrases. This little eight-word phrase has the ability to knock you straight out of your cloud nine euphoria and let you plummet heart first to ground zero with no warning signs. Ladies, we all know how this goes, and the first thing that comes into our minds consists of confusion and various amounts of creative curse words.

I know that I can speak for a lot of girls and yes, some major “bros” out there who’ve come up with a similar array of words that they’re surprised (and impressed) with. Who would’ve known, right? Who would’ve thought that this could happen?

Your whole world seems a blur and you can’t even think straight. A relationship is like a little joyride along a curvy hillside. You know that there will be twists and turns, assuming that you and your significant other have an understanding that you two will brace it together. But just two weeks into your school year, he jumps out of the mythical joyride right when you guys are making a sharp turn, causing it to spin out of control. Within a blink of an eye, your whole relationship is shattered.

No, I’m not looking for a way to complain about my life and envy others’. I’m here to bring this topic to reality because honestly, I thought that my relationship was untouchable. I’m sure it’s like that for everyone who enters a serious relationship like I had. You were up so high that when you hit the pavement, you had the infamous Porky Pig stutter: Th-th-th-that’s all f-f-folks!

All childhood cartoon reminiscences aside, a broken heart is definitely no laughing matter. Neither here nor there, relationships in college are begging to be tested. It’s like they are hanging off the thinnest piece of string, testing you to see how long you can hold on.

Hey, I thought it was manageable, I thought that we could actually do it, but I was completely blindsided when I was told the most sinister line in the book of sinister lines (if there was actually a book of sinister lines).

The reason I’m writing this article is because I’ve suffered a broken heart and let’s face it, many of us have (yes even you manly man out there). Especially when entering college it’s like a blurry boundary line, there’s a line there but it’s hard to figure out just where exactly it’s configured.

Love can last in college as long as both partners are committed (with a capital, bolded, underlined, and italicized “C”) and are able to communicate through everything, including a very pixelated Skype conversation.

But, remember to avoid the missing and unknown aspects of a long distance relationship, and focus on the seeing, the greeting, and the feeling your special someone gives you.

Sometimes relationships come and go, but we will always go back to them because we love the way relationships makes us feel. I honestly say just go for it, even though you may not know what will happen in the end, it’s worth a shot.  

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