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What is the secret to keeping a long lasting college relationship? – Anonymous

Anonymous– – There is no one right answer to this question. It may seem to be an obvious statement, but relationships depend on the people in them and their dedication to making them work. As a senior college student who has been in a relationship since freshman year, I think it is reasonable to speak from experience. From one college student to another.

One ‘secret ingredient’ is time. No matter if you are in a long-distance college relationship, or if your partner goes to the same school as you, I’ve learned it comes down to time. You and your partner decide how much time you have for one another. No matter how busy you are, everyone makes time for what matters to them (even if it is five minutes).

It may seem overwhelming at times to balance your busy schedule, and keep a stable relationship. If you are feeling overwhelmed by both, it is helpful to take a step back and re-evaluate your own feelings. If you are able to understand your own personal feelings, you will be able to be more open in your own relationship. It may feel scary at times to say how you are truly feeling, but honesty is key in a relationship. If you are able to be open and honest with your partner you will be able to stay on the same page, and increase your bond.

Shannon Hokanson, Lecturer of Communication, put it best when saying, “I don’t think there’s an easily sound bite-able set of tips for making a college relationship work, but if there was, it would likely include showing empathy, grace, compassion, and positive regard.”

In my opinion treating your partner with respect will allow you to have a long and healthy relationship. Remember to always stay true to each other, and do what works best for your own relationship.

Good Luck,


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